Friday, December 27, 2019

This is Me: 2019 Edition

This is me.  I'm a 31-year-old successful small business owner and independent contractor, slinging ink and drawing funny faces as a caricature artist for over half my life!  I've been married to my high school sweetheart for eleven years, together for 15.  We're homeowners here in Kansas City and have five rescue pets who get along perfectly.  I'm chronically ill with a collection of autoimmune illnesses that are being managed with a combination of medication and injectable biologics.

But finally, and perhaps most importantly regarding this blog: I'm a witch.  I've been a witchcraft practitioner of varying forms since I was a preteen.  I began Witchy Words in 2012 as a way to document my journey and beliefs, a blog which has grown to hundreds of thousands, perhaps even millions, of readers and hundreds of thousands of social media followers.  You all have ridden this strange and often-bumpy ride with me for quite some time, and I couldn't be more grateful!

So let's take a look at what 2019 had to offer - and where I'm going in 2020!

2019 Year In Review

  • My parrot Iris got an all-clear from topical infections she had been suffering since her stay at a negligent bird rescue.

  • Stopped posting on Witchy Words thanks to a crisis of faith that I had been working through since 2018.
  • Created and installed a wall-to-wall playground for my parrot in my office.

  • My husband and I won a 3-day, 2-night stay at a luxury hotel and a cruise vacation, which we're hoping to take in 2020.

  • Three of my closest friends threw me a pseudo-bachelorette party for the vow renewal.  I returned the favor through non-alcoholic drinks and massages for everyone.
  • I put Witchy Words on what I thought was a permanent hiatus.
  • Was a bridesmaid in a wedding for the first time ever.
  • Iris began her yearly molt.

  • My husband and I celebrated 10 years married on the 15th anniversary of our first date with a morning vow renewal.
  • We then went on a week-long second honeymoon to a tiny mountain town in Colorado.
  • While on that vacation, I had a tarot deck call to me for the first time.  It was a huge part of the solution to my crisis of faith.
  • Artemis had a photoshoot that supported KC Pet Project.
  • My tabby cat Zeus turned 11 years old.
  • My husband quit his abusive job of six years to seek a job that treated him better.

  • My husband expanded his job search to nationwide.
  • I became the sole income in the house and discovered I could pay all of the bills on my income alone.
  • Iris finished her yearly molt, shedding her clipped wing feathers so that she could fly.

  • Our parrot's first adoptaversary: Iris turns 9.

  • Husband turned 32.
  • Zeus had a health issue that required emergency vetting but the issue was resolved.
  • Went to the post office to shut down my PO box for Witchy Words only to discover a letter that changed the course of the blog.

  • Announced that I would be returning to Witchy Words come Samhain.
  • I turned 31.
  • Husband and I celebrated our 11th wedding anniversary.

  • Participated in NaNoWriMo to create a significant backlog of articles for Witchy Words.
  • My black cat Apollo turned six.
  • Marking a huge milestone in Iris's comfortability, she took her very first bath all on her own.
  • My white cat Hermes turned nine.
  • My dog Artemis turned 11.

  • Booked a vacation to a remote cabin on 60 acres of land for January.

About 2019

Describe 2019 in three words:
Reshaping. Celebration. Tenacity.

What achievement are you most proud of?
Finding out that I can fully support our household on my income.  This includes our mortgage, our new car, all of our utilities, credit card bills, five rescue pets, etc.  I knew that I likely could but you never truly know what you're capable of until your feet are held to the fire.  I'm really proud that I have made self-employment and drawing a livable job.

What was your biggest challenge this year?
While my crisis of faith might seem like my biggest challenge from the outside, I personally felt like my total lack of time to relax and self-reflect was an even bigger issue.  I could have come to a conclusion about my crisis of faith much sooner and without prompt had I not jumped from one major event to the next.  This year was non-stop and over in a flash.

What three songs will you associate most with 2019?
You & Me - Lifehouse (Cover by Samuel Gajicki and Kristin Wiberg)
Roots - In This Moment
Lose You to Love Me - Selena Gomez

What book or books had the biggest impact on you this year?
How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy - Jenny Odell
The Gift of Fear: And Other Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence - Gavin de Becker
Witchcraft Activism: A Toolkit for Magical Resistance - David Salisbury

How would you describe your Craft/practice this year?  
Largely non-existent, with hints of tarot and activism.

Top three articles of 2019:
This is tough because I didn't write for the majority of the year.
New Years Cleansing Bath 2018-19
Surviving a Witch's Crisis of Faith
[Shadow Work Series] An Introduction to Shadow Work: A Brief Overview

I entered 2019:
Officially in my 30s.
Married for over a decade.
Fur-mama of three cats, one dog, and a parrot - all rescues.
A successful small business owner with improved signage.
A caricature trainer!
A homeowner.
A blogger.
Forging my own path alone.

I left 2019:
31 years old.
Married for 11 years, together for nearly 16.
Fur-mama of three cats, one dog, and a parrot - all rescues.
A successful small business owner that can support her family alone.
A caricature trainer.
A homeowner.
STILL a blogger!
Forging my own path alone after having clawed it out of the shadows.

Looking Towards 2020

Pick a single word as the overarching theme for 2020:

What do you currently have on the schedule for next year?
When it comes to the blog, the entire Shadow Work series is on schedule, including a foray into practical shadow work, shadow work and witchcraft, and even a shadow work ritual.  I'll be diving back into thrifty altars to wrap up that series by Samhain.  I also have some one-offs, like a visual guide to energy work and a collective list of offerings.

What skills in your Craft are you looking to improve?
I'll be buckling down and reading or rereading a whole slew of books in an effort to really pin down my path and figure out where I want to go.  I'd like to improve my skills with tarot but I'm not looking to become an expert in a year.  I'm specifically focusing in on spirit work this year in my own Craft.

What is the biggest change you're implementing in 2020?
During the entirety of 2020, I'll be working to rebrand the blog behind the scenes.  You'll all get to see the efforts of that in a giant update New Years Day 2021.

In what ways do you plan to relax this year?
I have one specific vacation I want to take that's local and then we have the cruise we won that we have to take at some point.  On the bright side, my husband should be more available for vacations if his new job is everything it seems to be!

What is your biggest goal for 2020?
A total rebranding of Witchy Words that's more in line with the direction of my personal path rather than a representation of my path as it was a few years ago.

How was your 2019 and what are you looking forward to most in 2020?

From my family to yours, I wish you the happiest end of 2019 and the very best that 2020 has to offer.
-Marietta, Aaron, Artemis, Zeus, Apollo, Hermes & Iris.


  1. Love all of this. :) So glad to have you back.

  2. I'm so glad to have you back, Marietta. You were missed. I don't know how and why exactly you had a crisis of faith, but I'm happy to see that you were able to get out of the shadows and feel stronger through it. I was surprised to read that your coven disbanded, I must have missed something. I wish you the best on your solitary path and hope you can refind faith unique to you in 2020! <3 Best wishes!

    1. Aw, thank you so much, Aurora! I appreciate it! I actually have some posts that cover those topics:

      My initial crisis of faith:

      How to survive a crisis of faith (including how I survived my own):

      Official resignation from CF:

      Details about the end of CF:

      Before the hiatus, I was posting multiple times a week, which meant that these things got easily lost in the sea of articles. I'll be posting once a week on Fridays from here on out, so hopefully important posts won't get lost in the mix anymore.

      Thank you again for your kind words. Wishing you all the best in 2020!

  3. I super hope you'll share ALL about those books you're planning on re-reading/reading, cuz I DEF want to check out whatever you suggest to read!!! ;) <3 <3 <3 Happy New Year!!! <3 <3 <3

  4. Wonderful!!
    You know, I'd love to know what you're reading, witchy or not! Just, on a monthly or quarterly basis....things you've enjoyed, found valuable, etc...