Saturday, April 22, 2017

[Familiars 2017: Part 2] Domestic Animals as Familiars - Is my pet a familiar?

Previously, I talked a bit about the different types of familiars.  We typically imagine familiars as the little black cat trope but animals are not the only kind.  Broadening our perspective on the definition of familiar not only opens us to new kinds of connections but helps us butter understand today's topic.

Historically called imps, these animal familiars are physical creatures who form an agreement with a witch to assist said witch in their work.  Imps are what I prefer to specifically call domestic familiars.  From here on out, when I say "familiar," I'm referring specifically to that of a witch's partnership with an animal.

If you're here, you may be interested to find out if your pet or recent animal friend is a familiar.  Many times, when I talk about familiars on my blog, I get several comments with a pet's life story that end with the question "Is s/he a familiar?"  Let me put this in bold letters:

I cannot judge from your story in the comment section as to whether your pet is a familiar.

Only you can decide if an animal in your life is familiar worthy and if a pact can be made.  However, the following article can help.

The History of the Domestic Familiar
During the European Witch Trials

The first historical notes of a familiar or imp in reference to witches came during the European Witch Trials of the 17th Century.  References to a witch's imp are most prominent in the works of English witch-hunter Matthew Hopkins.  Attributed with the responsibility for the intense increase in "witch" prosecution in England between 1644 and 1646, Hopkins believed that a witch made a pact with the devil or a demon for her power.  In exchange, she was gifted with an animal, called an imp, to spy on others, carry out her wishes and guard her.  Animals believed to be imps were usually cats and dogs, but could also be other animals, like mice and toads.  To feed this imp, the witch was given a third nipple, or teat, from which the familiar would draw blood as its food.  This teat could be located anywhere on the body and would be unusual in shape, size and color, so it was the most common "identifier" for witches.  Hopkins was convinced that the teat was the only evidence needed to prove a witch of her guilt.

One of the most specific cases, and perhaps the most popular, was also one of Hopkins's first. In 1644 in the town of Manningtree, he arrested and deprived a woman of sleep for four nights straight.  Afterward, she named all of her familiars and their forms: Holt, a white kitten; Jarmara, a legless overweight Spaniel; Vinegar Tom, a greyhound with a head "like an Oxe;" Sacke and Sugar, a black rabbit; and Newes, a polecat.  In addition, she listed five more familiars, described as imps, one of which was the famous Pyewacket.

Of course, the name Pyewacket would be popularized in the 1958 film Bell, Book and Candle as the name of a cat familiar, and has remained in popular culture even to this day.

It should be noted that the European and American Witch Trials were not an affront on witches.  Most people prosecuted during that time had no connection with witchcraft.  Executions between the 15th and 18th Century likely totaled between 30-100k (not millions) and can be attributed to mass hysteria, poverty, illness, blight and other reasons.


Perhaps the easiest way to initially describe the concept of the modern domestic familiar is by listing misconceptions first.

Not every witch has a domestic familiar.  Not every witch wants one and they're perfectly within their right to that.  But, however disappointingly, not every witch that truly wants a familiar finds that kind of bond over their lifetime.  And that's okay!  Having a familiar is not required to be a witch or to practice magic by any means.  The sooner you accept this fact, the easier it will be to move forward.

Cats are not the only animals that can be familiars.  In fact, mammals are not the only kinds of animals that can be familiars.  Just about any kind of animal or insect you could ever imagine possible could be a familiar.  In fact, even plants can be familiars.  Thus, while the stereotype is the little black cat, you could just as easily have a snake, horse, bird or tarantula as a familiar too.

Separating the Pet from the Familiar

But perhaps the biggest misconception is that familiar is just another word for pet.  

Let me be clear: Not all pets are familiars. In fact, most aren't.

Do we love our pets and do they love us? Yes.  Do we form amazing bonds with our pets?  Of course.  Does it feel like we've known our pets from another lifetime?  Sure.  But does this make a pet a familiar?  No.

The pet/owner relationship can be just as sacred as the familiar bond.  Pets become family because they love so unconditionally and purely.  In turn, we love them in a similar manner.  This kind of mutual love is rarely echoed in other chosen relationships in our life. That's why it's so hard to imagine that Fluffy isn't a familiar.

Many familiar relationships begin as pets initially.  In fact, it's a great starting point.  The unconditional love that comes from owning a pet with a fantastic connection to you is a solid foundation for familiardom, but it does not a familiar make.

So Exactly What Denotes a Familiar?

The Call of the Familiar

Typically, we as witches don't get a choice in who our familiar is.  There are ways to call for a familiar of a particular type if you don't already have one, such as extensive meditation, visualization and projection, but the most real of familiars I find are ones who make that initial call to us instead.  You might see your familiar in a dream, meet them on the astral plane, visualize them during meditation and hear them even up to months before you physically meet them.  Some traditions believe that you can only be given a familiar, particularly by a prior relationship with a spirit of sorts, such as a demon or a spirit guide.  Even in this case, this requires you to meet your familiar before physically coming into contact with them.

On that note, all of this isn't to say that you can't go to a pet shelter and find your familiar.  Though maybe a bit less likely, your presence at the shelter could have been orchestrated by the bigger picture.

Unfortunately, it's not something you can force.  You can't go and pick up just any animal and decide that that animal will be your familiar.  You can't look down at your cat of 10 years and force them into a familiarship no more than you can force a human being into any kind of contract.  This is why I typically feel like spell work to call for a familiar won't have much baring on your actually finding one.  If you have a familiar out there, it will happen.  If you don't, it won't.

My best suggestion if you're wanting a domestic familiar is to keep your channels open.  As I mentioned above, we often meet our familiar on a separate plane before meeting them in the physical realm.  If that's the case, it's important to be adept at astral travel and meditation and to be in close contact with the deities and spirits you work with so as to be receptive to their call.

And even if your spirit guide gives you a vision of the animal before you meet, this animal may still be a pet unless...

The Familiar Bonds With You on a Spiritual Level

This one is easy to mistake with the unconditional love of a pet/owner relationship, primarily because it has its roots in just that.  It's why we get so caught up with pets being familiars.  This spiritual bond can seem similar to unconditional love if you've never experienced it and thus blurs the line for those who have not had a familiar.

The kind of spiritual bond I speak of transcends physical realms.  It's obviously not a romantic or physical bond; I want to make it clear that I would never suggest that.  And it's more than just an eerie "I-know-what-you're-thinking" link or the feeling of knowing that animal from another time and space.  In fact, I find it hard to describe this bond at all because it goes beyond words.  It is deeper than you can ever imagine if you've never had a familiar, terribly frightening if you're just now experiencing it and can be physically exhausting for even the most experienced of witches and pagans.

But there's more...

You Can Trust Your Familiar Wholly.

Oftentimes, we feel we can trust our pets with our life.  While it's a sweet sentiment, and in many cases true, the kind of unconditional trust I speak of goes beyond what you might expect of a normal animal.

The easiest way I can point out the difference is to pull from personal experience and print screen a reader question about my rune chain.  For reference, this is what my rune chain looks like:

And here is a question a Tumblr user asked about it:

While I did cleanse the rune chain with lemon juice initially and cats tend to not like citrus, I also have several blessing keys hanging in the house:

And a large bowl of salt and fragile items called a Blessing Bowl on my coffee table where even my dog could access it:

The Blessing Bowl, in its various incarnations, has been around for over a year and not once has it been knocked over by a familiar.  Not a key or rune has been pulled down.  I don't rearrange, cover or move these items when I'm gone or not present in the room.  In fact, I have never once worried about damage by one of my familiars to any of my spiritual items.  Because I have complete trust in my familiars, I have the confidence that they will not harm my possessions and, in particular, any protective and blessing items I have throughout and around the house.  

So when I speak about love and trust, I'm speaking on levels that exceed beyond that of a pet owner.  If you can't trust your pet around something spiritual, that pet is not a familiar.

To that tune, don't put your pet in a compromising situation to test its familiarship.  Putting a pet's life in jeopardy is never good practice.  Besides, if you have a familiar, then there's more to it than just trust...

A Familiar Guides Your Magical and Spiritual Endeavors

A true familiar takes an active role in your spiritual undertakings.  If you're the ritual type, they participate in rituals without having to be closed into the same room as you and being forced to be present.  They offer guidance and wisdom beyond what might have been available to you without them.  This means that they push things into place, or pull things out.  They make you notice things that you need to notice.  Again, they are choosing of their own free will to actively participate in your craft. 

I want you to take a look at the familiar present for this ritual: My cat, Zeus.  Notice that he is not being forced to be there; he is calm, lying on my grimoire.  He's also intense.  He is completely unafraid of the flames, yet he's not approaching them dangerously.  Instead, he's staring at them intently.  He's not looking at me.  He's not looking off in some other direction.  He's not laying his head down.  He is lending his energy to the spell at hand.  It is clear in the picture that he knows exactly what he's doing and that it's working as the flames reach up far higher than I anticipated.

Your familiar should empower you in your workings.  Beyond the strong spiritual bond and utter trust, there's a vibration when you touch them or they touch you, like being at the brink of a storm on a cliff or that moment the wind swirls the leaves around you.  That kind of empowerment is reflected into your work.  Your spell work is bigger, deeper, richer, stronger, more focused with them present.  And it's not just a feeling you get; the results are clearly evident.  You couldn't hide that this animal was your familiar if you tried.  If anyone has worked with you spiritually, they already know exactly which animals are and aren't your familiars just by how those familiars interact with your craft.

Your Familiar Speaks

Now I'm not suggesting that your familiar will open its mouth and form physical words.  I'm aware that actual lingual communication with a human isn't logically feasible for the majority of animals. Instead, the kind of speaking I'm referring to here is a sort of telepathic communication.  It crosses all realms and you need not necessarily be in the same room or building to hear them.  And while most familiars will only speak to their intended witch, some may be open to communicating outside of that.

This is Artemis, my empathetic water dog.  He is incredibly social and I am not the only one he speaks to.  Ask my husband, my Catholic and logical husband, and he will tell you that he hears him.  Ask any of my previous roommates and they will tell you that they hear him.  Ask my coven, my entire coven, and they will tell you that they hear him.  And if, for whatever reason, someone isn't adept at hearing him, he will speak through me.  This isn't me talking for him.  He will literally take me to the person, face them and talk through me while looking at them - not me.  If he does speak through me, it usually ends with the person's terribly shocked face - and it's likely that they will start to hear him not long afterward.

This is not a normal pet occurrence.  Never would I have ever suggested, in my empirical, pragmatic mind, that an animal could speak.  Yet here I am with four that speak clearly with their voice echoing within not just my head, but others'.

If your pet can't speak to you in this manner then you most certainly do not have a familiar.  This is because...

Your Familiar Will Make a Pact With You

As I mentioned before, one of the most common questions I get involves some sort of long-winded story about a pet ending with "So, do you think they're a familiar?"  And my response typically goes something to the tune of:

"Have you asked them?"

The bond between a witch and a familiar is solidified with a pact, an agreement of some kind that typically involves some sort of exchange of DNA (typically blood, but also not limited to claws, teeth, hair, etc).  Your familiar will bring you something and request an exchange that is sort of like a signature on a contract, spiritually binding you to your agreement.  Simply put:

If your familiar has not initiated a pact with you, you do not have a familiar.

It doesn't matter if your familiar meets all of the above criteria and more.  Without an agreement, your animal is in no way obligated in any shape or form to help you further your path as a witch.  Your pet may perform some cute tricks, such as knocking a particular book off of a shelf when needed or comfortably cuddling next to you during ritual, but will they bring you wisdom in the astral plane or cross you over the veil to the spirit realm?  Doubtful.  The pact not only safeguards them but also you in your journey together, sealing your souls in an unbreakable bond.  

Part One: Types of Familiars

Coming Soon
Part Three: Forming a Pact with the Domestic Familiar
Part Four: How a Domestic Familiar Serves the Witch
Part Five: Maintaining a Bond with the Domestic Familiar
Part Six: The Domestic Familiar and Ritual
Part Seven: On Multiple Domestic Familiars
Part Eight: Death of a Domestic Familiar
Part Nine: Ending a Domestic Familiar Pact

Friday, April 21, 2017

Witchy Words Beltane Giveaway!

To win the book Beltane (Llewellyn's Sabbat Essentials) by Melanie Marquis and this gorgeous altar cloth, click here and fill out the form!  One lucky winner will be selected on May 1st to receive these items.

US residents only.
Not affiliated with Cratejoy, Box of Shadows or Llewellyn.
These are duplicates of items I already own
and would hate to see them go to a dusty shelf!

Thursday, April 20, 2017

[Cratejoy] Box of Shadows April/Beltane 2017 Review

Since 2010, subscription boxes have been all the rage and it's not hard to see why.  Who doesn't enjoy a box of their favorite themed items delivered to their door?  Seven years later, the subscription box industry has exploded with multiple subscription box services for just about any concept you can think of.  So which one do you choose?  How do you even find them all?

Enter Cratejoy, an amazing website that collects tons of your favorite subscription boxes (and more that you may not even know about) and puts them all in one place!  Cratejoy conveniently sorts boxes into select categories, such as "Beauty and Fashion" or "Geek and Gaming," and even offers the ability to search for whatever topic you choose.

When Karen over at Cratejoy asked if I would be interested in reviewing some subscription boxes offered through their website, all I did was hop to the search bar and type in "witch."  It didn't take me long to discover a plethora of new subscription box services I didn't even know existed!

One such subscription box is Box of Shadows.  Started by two eclectic pagans with little access to affordable witchcraft supplies, Box of Shadows strives to offer affordable pagan and witchcraft supplies while still supporting the overarching community.

While Box of Shadows appears similar to other similar subscription boxes, what sets it apart is its multiple box tiers.  Instead of having one fixed price, you can choose a tier that works best for your budget and receive a fixed number of items.  The Initiate boasts that it's perfect for the beginner and includes 5 undressed candles, one incense, one smoke cleansing bundle, an herb OR a gemstone, and three surprise items.  The Priestess states that it's the complete worship box and adds an additional item to the mix.  Finally The Supreme is their themed box, includes five surprise items and is the only one to definitively include a book of some sort.   It's also the only level to include both the herb and the gemstone of the month.

Today, we'll be reviewing their Supreme tier for April/Beltane 2017.

Upon opening the box, you're greeted with a pamphlet that states the contents of the box.  Inside the pamphlet, you can find some correspondences as well as a bit of information about the sabbat and an informational article.  This one just happens to be on witch jars, which perfectly parallels my circle who will be teaching a Witch Jars class to our local community next Wednesday.

A card inside states that they utilize EcoEnclose, an earth-friendly packaging service.  Plastic packaging is the most detrimental to our environment in terms of shipping,  Unfortunately, I still see some used in the package, but I'm also not sure it was avoidable to ensure that the items arrived safely.  It's finding a good balance between what's safe and what works, right?

The first item clearly visible in this box is a package of meadowsweet. Found growing natively in the meadows of Europe and Western Asia, meadowsweet or mead wort is typically used to flavor wine and beer and may be strewn in a room to give it a pleasant scent.  In magical terms, meadowsweet is used for balance, happiness, harmony and love, most of which are listed properly in the included pamphlet.

Next, we have the stone of the month: Labradorite.  In this box, it comes in the form of two loose tumbled stones and a bracelet!  Labradorite enhances clairvoyance, self-discovery and is a wonderful shielding stone.

Those who subscribe to The Priestess or The Initiate likely only got either meadowsweet or labradorite.  It certainly helps make The Supreme a worthwhile investment!

Next up, we have a candle dressed for Beltane from Modern Magix. According to their website, this candle is designed to "boost existing goals and encourage new ones."  Seems like this Beltane is all about enhancing and boosting, wouldn't you say?

As promised, the crate includes five undressed spell candles of varying colors for the season.  In the pamphlet, the correspondences for each candle color are listed.  Their uses range from general success to purity and peace.  These colors are common with Beltane and fit right in!

Incense of the month is Amber Sun from Triloka, described on the box as "uplifting and comforting."  I might associate this incense more with Midsummer based on the name and description, but I can certainly see how it might also connect to Beltane.  The sun is a fiery entity after all.

Also included in the box is a juniper smoke cleansing bundle (referred to in the pamphlet by its appropriated name as a "smudge stick," unfortunately).  Juniper and I have never really gotten along.  It smells strangely of urine to me, but that's my personal preference of course.  While the pamphlet gives no information about why juniper was chosen, I assume it's because juniper doesn't just remove negativity in a space - it also attracts the positive.  It creates a nice balance for an uplifting ritual.

The next two items may be recognizable from a box I've reviewed in the past.  Given that both were sabbat themed, it would make sense that items might span both boxes.  The first one in this box is a goddess figurine candle holder.  The pamphlet again doesn't describe the item or why it was included, and the previous box I reviewed included it in their Ostara bundle, not Beltane.  However, given that it's a candle holder and Beltane is a fire holiday, I can see the connection!

The second recognizable item is Llewellen's Sabbat Essentials series with this book for Beltane.  This book is fantastic for the beginner witch unsure of what to do for the sabbats.  It's chocked full of great information and I would highly recommend it.

Finally, the last item in the box is this gorgeous altar cloth (modeled by Artemis of course).  The Celtic knots and green to blue tie dye is an interesting combination for Beltane, but could easily work for just about any altar!

Artie was of course paid for his hard modeling work.  My familiars don't work for free!

So let's discuss some pros and cons of Box of Shadows in comparison to other subscription boxes I've experienced.

(+) Tiered subscriptions
I absolutely love the tiered subscription options.  It allows you to choose what works best for your budget so you can get a witchy subscription box without breaking the bank.  That's something I haven't seen with other services.

(+) Consistency
Box of Shadows makes it clear that, in each box, you will at least receive a bundle of undressed spell candles, an incense, an herb OR a gemstone and a smoke cleansing bundle.  These are the basics of a sabbat ritual and are incredibly useful.  It's good to know that will never change.

(-) Informational Pamphlet
The pamphlet include does have a nice set of information, but I feel like I'm missing some essentials.  Why were certain items included?  What company did they come from?  I would love a little more transparency!

(-) Waiting List
Like many subscription boxes of its kind, Box of Shadows is at capacity.  Cratejoy of course lets you set up a notification to let you know when it becomes available and, with its tiered subscription options, I feel like it might be more likely to be available sooner than competing boxes.

If you're interested in checking Box of Shadows out, click here!

And, of course, I can't say enough about how fabulous Cratejoy is.  A website that collects a multitude of subscription boxes and puts them in one place for ease of purchase?  Sounds like a win to me!  So go check it out and see what's out there.  You certainly won't regret it.