Thursday, November 23, 2017

Candles for Artemis


Candles for Artemis
Thursday, November 23rd at 7 pm CST to
end of the day Friday, November 24th

Artie's surgery and staging is scheduled for tomorrow at 7 am 8 am (changed by vet) and he will be at the vet all day.  At 7 pm tonight, we have to put him on a fast.  I've set up an altar to Artie with several tealights.  Friends and family members are going to come from 7 pm tonight all the way through his surgery until 5 pm tomorrow to light candles on this altar to Artie's health.  I'm cutting visitation off at 5 so I can go get him and he can rest at home without any excitement.

If you want to help Artie get better and send some healing energy his way, light a candle between those times and send me a picture.  You can either post it in the comments below or send it to me via e-mailFacebook or Tumblr.

Bill Assistance
Or a direct call to our vet on Friday, November 24th:
816-257-5454

Aaron and I have a savings.  We are not struggling to meet this bill, for once in our lives.  That being said, some readers have wanted to help financially anyway to alleviate the stress involved with the surgery, and we're certainly not going to say no.  If we don't have to dip into our winter savings, it would make the situation slightly less stressful.  The original vet appointment cost $140 on blood work, meds and a biopsy Thursday.  I'm looking at between $370-$570 for the surgery this upcoming Friday.  Until I know the stage, I don't know what else to expect.  So if you want to help us out in a physical world way, this would be the route to go.  Again, we have the savings.  This would just be alleviating financial stress.

Thank you so much to Arteyin for donating $50 towards his medical bills.  We truly appreciate it!

Also thank you to Debra in Alabama for donating $50 towards Artie's surgery!  <3

Monday, November 20, 2017

Artemis has cancer.


If you follow me on social media, you'll know that I've known for a few days now.  It's just been hard for me to tackle this blog entry because it felt like, the minute I posted it here, it was more... real.

Artemis, my loyal, empathetic and intelligent Malshi, has a mast cell tumor on his right inner thigh (hind leg) and it is confirmed cancerous.


The sad part is that he's had this for a long time.  It usually appears as a pea-sized and flat dark pink spot.  Sometimes it would flare up and we would take him to the vet to have it "drained."  Two different vet clinics and none of them ever mentioned the word cancer to us.  They always just called it a pustule.

So when it flared up this past week, I took him to our new vet to have it drained.  I could tell, the minute she looked at it, that something was wrong.

"How have your previous vets not mentioned that this is cancer?"

I don't know.


Right now, we don't know the stage of it.  The first goal is to get him on steroids and an antihistamine to shrink it as small as we can get it.  Apparently, a mast cell tumor causes an immune reaction which makes the area inflamed.  In the course of three days, we've done this:


Then, this upcoming Friday, they'll remove the tumor and stage it.  The problem with mast cell tumors is that they don't spread like normal cancer.  Tumors can pop up unrelated to the original tumor itself.  So we have to make sure it's not in other organs before moving forward.


I will say that the vet is hopeful that it likely isn't Stage 3.  She thinks he has an incredibly low chance of it being that far along.  First, he's had this spot for forever and no other tumors have appeared.  Second, he has no symptoms commonly associated with this type of cancer.  No diarrhea, vomiting, loss of appetite, blood in the stool - none of that.

The main worry for me is that he's had it for so long and no vet has ever, ever diagnosed it.  If I had known back in 2012 when I first spotted it, I would have had it removed then - even while we had zero funds.  Artie's health is so important to us and I'm so disappointed in vets right now.  We had some great ones who totally missed this, even when I brought it up.

Artemis is only nine years old.  Yes, he's a senior pup, but he's a small dog and a mixed breed, and should have an average of 14 years in him at minimum barring further health issues.  It's far too soon for him to go.


So how can you help?

This is the first question most readers have asked.  Initially, I had no idea.  I wasn't able to fully process the information myself.  But I now have two ways you can help out:

Candles for Artemis
Thursday, November 23rd at 7 pm CST to
end of the day Friday, November 24th

Artie's surgery and staging is scheduled for Friday at 7 am and he will be at the vet all day.  At 7 pm the night before, we have to put him on a fast.  Starting that evening, I'm going to set up an altar to Artie with several tealights.  Friends and family members are going to come from 7 pm that night all the way through his surgery until 5 pm Friday to light candles on an altar to Artie's health.  I'm cutting visitation off at 5 so I can go get him and he can rest at home without any excitement.

If you want to help Artie get better and send some healing energy his way, light a candle between those times and send me a picture.  You can either post it in the comments below or send it to me via e-mail, Facebook or Tumblr.

Bill Assistance
Or a direct call to our vet on Friday, November 24th:
816-257-5454

Aaron and I have a savings.  We are not struggling to meet this bill, for once in our lives.  That being said, some readers have wanted to help financially anyway to alleviate the stress involved with the surgery, and we're certainly not going to say no.  If we don't have to dip into our winter savings, it would make the situation slightly less stressful.  The original vet appointment cost $140 on blood work, meds and a biopsy Thursday.  I'm looking at between $370-$570 for the surgery this upcoming Friday.  Until I know the stage, I don't know what else to expect.  So if you want to help us out in a physical world way, this would be the route to go.  Again, we have the savings.  This would just be alleviating financial stress.

Sunday, November 19, 2017

[Guest Article] Tamilia: Oh My Gods: Navigating Relationships with Multiple Deities


A note from Witchy Words:  At the beginning of the year, I asked the circle I coordinate, Circle of Fountains, if they'd each like to do a guest article based on a topic that I might not be able to cover.  This is a great effort by my amazing circle to give you information that you might not otherwise encounter here at Witchy Words.  The following article is written not by me but another member of Circle of Fountains, with credit and notes about its author below.  Enjoy!

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All relationships can be complicated, and human to divine relationships are no different. I began having intense, clearly identifiable encounters with specific gods and spirits about ten years ago. Since then, deepening my spirituality and developing my practice has required that I think through the relationships that I have cultivated. There are many ways to think about navigating human relationships with the divine. Here are eight guiding principles that have emerged for me along the way and I hope that they aid you in your journey toward deeper relationships with deities.


1. Know your gods’ mythology and cultural context.

Context matters. When dealing with many deities from many different pantheons, work diligently to learn about the deity’s traditional attributes and lore as well as the culture(s) in which that deity functioned (and may still function). Everything, including gods, function within a context. That context can and will change over time, and you may benefit from being versed in its iterations because each one may have an important influence on the dynamics between you and the deity. The gods can be engaged without much cultural awareness, but just because you can doesn’t mean you should. Neglecting context will likely lead to a faux pas or seven that may damage your relationship with the deity. It goes without saying that relationships can be hard to restore once damaged.

2. Identify and practice with at least one divine communication method that works for you.

Develop your skill with at least one effective means of listening to the gods. Tarot, runes, direct communication, or other methods work well for many people. Find your tool. Hone your skill. Use it well. The more gods you work with, the more important reliable communication is. When the gods you work with are all speaking at once, you will be thankful that you cultivated your divination skills. Refining your hearing so that you can tell who is talking, when, and what they are saying is very important as well. Linking this point with the first, you may find that several deities that you have relationships with have a traditional communication system that is associated with each of them (e.g. Odin and the runes). You may decide to dedicate yourself to the study of those traditional systems in order to become adept. If you choose that route, that’s great! However, at the end of the day, it is more important that you choose a system that the deity will speak through and that you can hear them through, even if it’s not a method traditionally associated with them.


3. Create a communion and sacrifice schedule. Allow for changes over time.

When working with multiple gods, it is helpful to have designated time for performing major rites and offerings for each. I have found that if I honor whomever whenever, I end up neglecting some gods, and that can create rifts in relationships down the road. The schedule does not have to be rigid though. You can allow for changes in the schedule over the years. In consultation with the gods, allow the schedule to be responsive to and accommodating of your actual, real-time relationships with the gods. When I moved to Missouri in 2015, I attempted to jump back into my schedule as it existed in Illinois but different times (and places) call for a different religious calendar. It’s been quite some time but I’m finally honing in on a festival calendar that works well for me and the gods.

4. Do what you are able to do.

Said another way: do what is within your mental, physical, financial, temporal, energetic, emotional, and psychological means to do and let it be. If you can afford fine and beautiful adornments for your deity shrine, by all means purchase them and rejoice. If one of your gods is fond of a particular hard-to-obtain mineral, grain, alcohol, or other substance and you have the time, money, and resources to procure it, then by all means do so. If you are able to meditate once per week then meditate once per week and do it gladly. If what you have is a cheese sandwich and a juice carton, pour a portion of that sanctified beverage on the concrete and keep it movin’. Do what you can do. The relationship is primary and the gods honor those who honor them to the best of their ability.



5. Do well those things that you are able to do. 

The gods appreciate a little sacrifice every now and again to show that you are serious and committed to the relationship. This tends to be true of humans too so why not the gods. So, if you have extra time this week spend it with their praise names on your lips, or write a blog post detailing some obscure aspect of a deity’s mythology. If you have extra funds this month, splurge on that drinking horn. If you don’t have extra time or money to give, be sure that whatever you do give, you give it well. That means if you only have $10 for wine, do your research and make it the best $10 bottle of wine you can give to the gods. And when you pour it out with your eyes toward the sky, let the best praise hymn you could find (or write!) tumble from your lips like honey, because you practiced really hard the night before while braiding your kid’s hair before bedtime.

6. Do not agonize over what you are unable to do.

This is closely linked with numbers 4 and 5 above. We often want to give the gods the most opulent gifts, or five hours more meditation time per day than we actually have to give. Such is strength of our relationship and our love for them. However, I have found that it is important not to become weighed down by what you are unable to do. The gods don’t need our pious insecurities and fears of spiritual inadequacy. If you cannot afford ridiculously expensive shrine items, or $50 per ounce of incense for this week’s offering, or that gilded drinking horn for your next blot for Freyr, do not become so depressed that you fail to do what you are able to do, or fail to take pride in the honor you are able to give the gods.

Similarly, if you are clinically depressed and are barely able to make it out of bed each day, have some compassion for yourself and make a note in your calendar to make offerings at another time. When you’re super depressed, just setting a date for a future offering or rite is a huge gift to the gods. [Minor tangent: On the flip side I’ve found that pushing through a low period when possible and coming before the gods’ altars can help lift the clouds of despair, even if for a moment. I’ve felt blessed beyond words by the gods’ love and support in hard times. You may find that not every deity relationship will hold you in that way (just like not every human relationship will meet that need), but you may find that there are some deities who will extend themselves in that way at key times. Ok, back to my point…]

If you are financially stable and mentally well, but some other resource is what you lack, work around it. Do not falter in giving what you can for sorrow over what you cannot. A large part of our offering to the gods is our devotion. Allow your devotion to radiate out from your heart, first and foremost, and rejoice in it. Your devotion to the gods is in no way tarnished by the humble nature of your gift to them.

Love, Heart, Heart Shape, Romance, In Love, Romantic

7. Feel the connection you share with the gods.

You are in a relationship. When you stop being yourself, when you stop connecting with the gods, talking to them, inviting them into your life, mind and heart, you have stopped honoring them, even if you are still making your regularly scheduled offerings. To my thinking, Pagan spirituality is about heart and soul in addition to ritual, offerings, and the like. A part of the goal is to feel the connection you share with the gods. When you don’t feel the relationship, something may be wrong. There are many ways that you can lose touch. If you’re distracted, or you’d rather be somewhere else, it can be a tell-tale sign. If your new devotional craft project is poorly designed, a bit lopsided, and a little smelly from cat urine and you don’t even care, you may need to regroup. Call an emergency meeting with yourself, and then with the gods, and figure it out. In my experience, those moments come and go as a part of the natural ebb and flow of being in relationship. It’s not about freaking out and shaming yourself for feeling disconnected. It’s about recognizing that disconnection happens and then doing your part to get plugged back in. That may mean changing the festival calendar, reassessing your relationship with the gods, changing yourself, or all of the above. You have to figure it out because every day that you let the problem fester is another day that you may be doing damage to your relationships, including your relationship with yourself.

8. Experiment until you find a combination of divination, rituals, sacrificial rites, festivals, etc. that efficiently, effectively, and reliably cultivates your relationship with the gods.

Working with many deities is alchemical! Lots of varied chemicals have to come together and, with a little magic, make gold. Some combinations of time, energy, ritual, and offering will blow up in your face. Others will work for a time and then start to revert to lead. Experiment. Don’t be afraid to try things out. Be sure to involve the gods in this process. That goes without saying. Talk to them! This is your bonding time with them. Trust that if you open the lines of communication they will tell you what works for them and what doesn’t. Similarly, you can say what works for you and what doesn’t and they will likely listen. I would add that ultimately, your relationships with the gods are between you and the gods. There are many folks who are more than happy to try to tell you the definitive way to manage your relationships. Take it all with a grain of salt. Keep the avenues of communication open between you and the gods, and remain respectful (but not humorless). As you find your way the gods will likely accept your growing pains, and they just may see you through them.

Like all relationships, building bonds with the gods takes time and energy. As we move through the process of relating and connecting with them we must remember to be open, honest, and communicative. Reciprocity is a key aspect of connection. When it comes to the gods, when we give well and from the heart, when we stay in conversation with them, we grow the ties that bind us and the worlds draw that much closer to one another. Of course, if, when, and how the gods respond varies in accordance with their own agency and volition, but that’s a blog post for another day.

Happy connecting!

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Tamilia is a guest member of Circle of Fountains and a devotional polytheist.  This article is an updated and revised version of a post originally published on her blog, Wandering Woman Wondering.